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Mistress
Joanne
......I
first heard of fisting in the mid-80s, not long after I left my ex-husband.
Paul, my first gay friend, introduced me to the gay community, and, through
a friend of his, to the AIDS community (the latter experience was a life-changing
one). I’ll never forget my reaction when Paul first mentioned fisting
("Crisco?????") We were both thoroughly puzzled. We could sort
of understand the bottom getting "something" out of it (we
weren’t sure what), but what could possibly be in it for the Top??
After all, there are no sexual receptors in the hands.
......Many
years later, I called Paul and told him I could answer that question
now! For me as a Top, when I watch my hand slide into my partner, I feel
a sense of awe and reverence. The bottom, by being so open and vulnerable,
expresses a profound trust in me. Feeling a partner’s pulse with
my hand deep inside her/his body leaves me speechless.
......Along
the way, an experienced female partner, Randy, introduced me to vaginal
fisting, both as a Top and a bottom. The image of my wrist disappearing
inside her is indelibly scorched into my memory, and that memory still
gives me goose bumps. Ive since taught male partner(s) how to vaginally
fist me. Its an awesome experience, whether or not my body can
completely accept the offered hand.
......In
the late 80s I was privileged to attend several SMU ("SM University")
classes sponsored by Chicago Hellfire Club. I saw an anal fisting demo,
and I occasionally saw fisting scenes at the CHC parties following the
SMUs. I distinctly recall my mouth going dry and my heart racing at the
sight. Having many gay male friends who are fisters (or fistees), I had
the opportunity to discuss fisting with them, and to learn from them.
......Two
and a half years ago, I met an incredible lover; he has become my primary
fisting partner. We have both learned from and taught each other much
about our bodies and our souls. Whether I am the Top or the bottom,
I find fisting, anal or vaginal, to be the most intimate, the most intense
experience possible. To me, fisting is a journey, not a goal. How far
inside a bottom’s body a Top is able to go is dependent on many
things, so there ought never be a sense of failure if the Top’s
entire hand is not swallowed into the bottom’s.
......Since
the late 90s Ive begun to find more straight/bi men who seek to
be fisted and to do other anal play. YAY!!! Ive also begun to "take
my act on the road," teaching fisting classes and seminars. The
time now seems right to create a fisting forum that excludes no one.
The Catacombs
......When
I first began to admit and explore my interest in SM, back in the late
80s, a friend gave me some issues of Drummer Magazine. Issue #139 contained
an article: "The Catacombs: A Temple of the Butthole," by Gayle
Rubin, Ph.D. (also reprinted in the anthology Leatherfolk, edited by
Mark Thompson). Gayle, a member of the San Francisco Lesbian and Gay
History Project, has graciously given me permission to paraphrase and
to quote from her.
......In
the article, Gayle tells the tale of San Franciscos Catacombs,
an "
underground establishment where 20th century sexual heretics
could practice their own rites and rituals
" Created by Steve
McEachern as a birthday present to his lover in May 1975, the Catacombs
was first and primarily a place for gay male fisting parties. As time
passed, though, its role and place in the community evolved.

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